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@Satsuma they’re worn differently! capes are secured by a clasp at the front of the neck whereas quilts are secured by gravity on account of there being more fabric in front of your body than behind

@Satsuma by which i mean it is comfortable, fashionable, allows easy thermoregulation, and if you want to take a nap you already have a blanket

@Satsuma i’m gonna try and make walking around with quilts draped over your shoulders a Thing

it’s an idea whose time has come

@Satsuma but i have it easy because i just have a blanket with me most of the time

@Satsuma see i still usually do that lying on the floor with a blanket

@Satsuma SOMETIMES

@Satsuma lying in bed just makes me tired which is a problem if i’m trying to *recoup* energy

@Satsuma but i mean i was severely depressed all of college it’s not like i was asking around either

@Satsuma i’m not saying people don’t do things with it, i’m saying that the professors tend to not be the type with a bunch of opportunities in their back pocket

since opportunities tend to coincide with capitalism, and gender studies tends to, not

@Satsuma see in my case i majored in gender studies

@Satsuma anyways i am simultaneously very good at networking and very bad at networking

i know all the people and gain zero opportunities from them

@Satsuma get a blanket

@Satsuma you don’t like lying on carpet?

@Satsuma i mean that’s what i’d do

@SportsGoblin browns are in the top half of teams at least

@astraluma which i think is totally reasonable!! it just makes it very hard to offer recommendations to other people lol, like even admins don't necessarily remember the reason behind every domain block

@astraluma they're suspended on cybre.space!!

yeah so i think “ideally” if you have a friend who wants to join the fediverse, you should do the work to find them a “good” instance which you know federates with yours, and general nonspecific lists can be unhelpful at capturing community nuance

of course this “ideal” case may not always be feasible in practice

@astraluma like without Knowing Somebody Here you have no way of knowing that like, witches.live is blocked by half the fediverse or whatever

@astraluma don't think there really are any