@astraluma like without Knowing Somebody Here you have no way of knowing that like, witches.live is blocked by half the fediverse or whatever
@astraluma they're suspended on cybre.space!!
yeah so i think “ideally” if you have a friend who wants to join the fediverse, you should do the work to find them a “good” instance which you know federates with yours, and general nonspecific lists can be unhelpful at capturing community nuance
of course this “ideal” case may not always be feasible in practice
@Lady I honestly just let my very lovely admins handle the mess, I have 100% lost track of all the ass holes, dramas, faux pas, and other stuff that's happened.
@astraluma which i think is totally reasonable!! it just makes it very hard to offer recommendations to other people lol, like even admins don't necessarily remember the reason behind every domain block
@Lady I didn't even know that.