Satsuma @Satsuma@cat.family

@JessMahler its more common in some fandoms than others so if you get lucky enough you might never run into it! …and if you don’t you’ll probably figure out somethings off immediately, the vibe is both distinctive and weird

@JessMahler yeah i’ve made a practice in fandom spaces of avoiding people who have too strong feelings about which character is the bottom bc 90% of the time its code for some sort of inherently feminine/submissive bs that i do not have the patience for

@JessMahler this is not a disagreement but it *is* odd that we’ve decided the person giving oral is the receptive partner somehow

@imp yay for a useable sub floor!

@writers @ljwrites i guess part of what i’m working around here is just suspension of disbelief? somewhat similarly i recall an actor from a show i watched commenting that he hates getting complements on the technical details of his acting from fans, because if they were noticing that then he wasn’t able to get them fully immersed in the world of the show. and i’m not sure i take as extreme a stance as he does (its fine to appreciate something for its artistic merits without being fully immersed, and one can certainly read/watch something multiple times through different lenses also!) but there is a valid question as to how much analytical/critical thought do i want to be doing by default and for me at least it’s hard to accept the world as “real” if i’m simultaneously pulling apart the craft of how it was written and questioning what they chose to show me

@writers @ljwrites there are certain fanfiction critiques that implicitly critique this (eg. missing scene/episode tag fics, outsider POV) by highlighting things the artist chose to leave out or downplay and those are often very interesting and fruitful creative avenues! but you still can only work with what they chose to show you, ultimately, even in those more resistant frameworks

@writers @ljwrites for non fiction i’m definitely critically aware of this kind of “objectiveness” but yeah i think for fiction there’s just a certain point where like…sure they could be misleading me about how the world works in their choice of framing, but also like they created the world so

@tsunderdog i think its fine to have a fee structure thats like “x amount for the commission itself and a high quality scan plus optional y in shipping and handling if you want the original”

@compostablespork somehow i get the feeling pie wont fix this one 😂

@SocialGaff often a looser binder (say, two sizes up from what they usually wear) will still get you a relatively flat look without nearly as intense compression — I ended up just sticking with the larger size for pretty much everything after getting used to how much more comfortable it is (and easier to get on and off) but it works as a “just for more active days” thing also

if they are feeling noticeably short of breath i would *definitely* not ignore that while binding — take a break and see if you can get your breath back and if that doesn’t happen relatively quickly, or your lungs still feel inflamed after (any of: breathing feels weird, coughing, phlegm, compression feels “tighter” than normal) try to get the binder off as soon as possible.