Lady of the Land @Lady@cat.family

also i love the “old medical books” trope like do you realize how much of old medical books is just absolute horseshit that people believed because they didn’t know any better

« (Y/N) wasn’t a doctor by any means, but she did like to read, and her grandmother’s home had a dusty library full of old medical books. » look i like to read but not THOSE

bar scenes are generally NOT common in this fandom

wild that the past two (Y/N) fics i’ve read have begun in bars

i’m saying this because i do not really remember my first time much and i can’t tell if that is because [numerous things with hazardous effects on my memory since then] or pretty normal

does anybody who has had sex many times actually remember their first time

remember the song americano by lady gaga where she falls in love with an undocumented immigrant and they run away to california in the summer of 2008 to get married in the very small window of time before the passage of Proposition 8 would outlaw same‐sex marriage again

yes let’s push for decoupling those things from marriage (nobody has ever argued differently) but in the meantime let’s save some lives huh

especially in the aftermath of HIV/AIDS, wherein having healthcare coverage was (and is) Kind Of A Big Deal

it is horribly ahistoric to suggest that the reason why people wanted gay marriage was because of some romantic agenda and not those very real material concerns which were profoundly affecting their lives

i should also add an addendum to this that the primary impetus for gay marriage was not “recognition of queer romance” but rather easing things like adoption, sharing healthcare coverage, visitation rights, rights to not testify against spouses in court, etc……

to cleanse my palette here is some Queer and Now

here is some Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick using the word “alloerotic” in the year 1994

nothing queerer than state recognition amirite

“the modern queer movement [NB: there is no pre‐modern queer movement] is organized around the recognition of marriage” i’m dying over here

oh, no, baby, that’s the modern GAY movement,

(MAYBE)
(MAYBE THE WHITE ONE)

the more you know 🌠

this is also why lesbian is not mutually exclusive with asexual, bisexual, pansexual, or possibly even heterosexual

p.s. this is where “political lesbianism” comes in, you may have heard some people making fun of that, like haha you’re a lesbian for political reasons not because you like girls, haha

yes, that’s aromanticism as praxis, yes

so anyway i’m glad the kids are rediscovering that, but let’s not pretend like the TERFs using their unwillingness to date trans lesbians as a way to exclude them from lesbian networks of support is in any way a unanimous or necessary consequence of queer activism of old

it’s a new development spurned by the increased acceptance and normalization of gay dating in the ’10s, mirroring the similar (but much older) deployment of romance by heterosexuals with the aim of controlling acceptable forms of gender expression, especially among women

the trend of using romance as an exclusionary policy to gatekeep who does and does not receive community belonging or social support was both precedented, predicted, and opposed