Lady @Lady@cat.family

especially in the aftermath of HIV/AIDS, wherein having healthcare coverage was (and is) Kind Of A Big Deal

it is horribly ahistoric to suggest that the reason why people wanted gay marriage was because of some romantic agenda and not those very real material concerns which were profoundly affecting their lives

i should also add an addendum to this that the primary impetus for gay marriage was not “recognition of queer romance” but rather easing things like adoption, sharing healthcare coverage, visitation rights, rights to not testify against spouses in court, etc……

to cleanse my palette here is some Queer and Now

here is some Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick using the word “alloerotic” in the year 1994

nothing queerer than state recognition amirite

“the modern queer movement [NB: there is no pre‐modern queer movement] is organized around the recognition of marriage” i’m dying over here

oh, no, baby, that’s the modern GAY movement,

(MAYBE)
(MAYBE THE WHITE ONE)

the more you know 🌠

this is also why lesbian is not mutually exclusive with asexual, bisexual, pansexual, or possibly even heterosexual

p.s. this is where “political lesbianism” comes in, you may have heard some people making fun of that, like haha you’re a lesbian for political reasons not because you like girls, haha

yes, that’s aromanticism as praxis, yes

so anyway i’m glad the kids are rediscovering that, but let’s not pretend like the TERFs using their unwillingness to date trans lesbians as a way to exclude them from lesbian networks of support is in any way a unanimous or necessary consequence of queer activism of old

it’s a new development spurned by the increased acceptance and normalization of gay dating in the ’10s, mirroring the similar (but much older) deployment of romance by heterosexuals with the aim of controlling acceptable forms of gender expression, especially among women

the trend of using romance as an exclusionary policy to gatekeep who does and does not receive community belonging or social support was both precedented, predicted, and opposed

the slippage that queer “romance” is somehow equivalent to straight “romance” or that it even makes sense to refer to the former as “romance” at all is part of the reason why queers opposed gay marriage

let’s just scroll the dial all the way back to that time where if you didn’t date and eventually marry a man you would be viewed as an old spinster and have zero social safety net

lesbians have been figuring aromanticism as inherently political for like half a century

i’m in a fire emblem fan server and all the comments are things like “the pokémon fandom is terrible they were all clamouring for BDSP and now they’re all trashing it” and then i’m in a pokémon fan server and it’s just like 98% not even talking about the new games and the remaining 2% “BDSP looks cool i’m excited for it”

the pokémon fandom is fine and chill, it’s the pokémon fans who are too good for fandom who are all assholes

getting arbitrarily frustrated over people saying “the pokémon fandom” and not “pokémon fans”

sometimes… you just really need a lisp……

not me though, couldn’t be me