Lady @Lady@cat.family

@Betty typically the reasons for silencing are one of the following:

1) admins actively don't want the account showing up on the public timelines, maybe because:
• account does not follow instance guidelines regarding things like CWs
• account makes posts which are considered spam

2) the instance (of the account) is not well-moderated, so admins can't guarantee the quality of the account (in this case, they probably haven't ever even looked at it individually)

in either case, if the account was known to be a problem it would be blocked, not just hidden, and you wouldn't be able to see it at all. it's more “we can't guarantee that this account will conform to the expectations you might have of other accounts on this server, because it's hosted somewhere else with different rules / worse moderation”

apparently employers are upset because they spend all their time training new employees only for them to leave

to which i reply, haha gottem

@Betty it could go either way; moderators can hide specific profiles OR entire instances and the software doesn't distinguish the two

@aescling did you intentionally make a poll which immediately closed or

fucked up that you can't gay marry the queen in DAO tbqh

bioware made all of their characters gay and i'm not just saying that because i am one,

@EnergyStarshine@home.social @allisonwyss yes, i mean, i’m definitely not trying to push queerness back in the closet!! but at the same time, the closet is a real part of our heritage and i’m not entirely sure i can get on‐board with the “nuke the closet from orbit” brand of queerness where everything needs to be out in the open or it doesn’t count. i’d like there to still be space for both…

i also don’t see having multiple possible interpretations as a bad thing. like, i’m okay with giving up the conventional “is she straight or is she gay?”, but in its place i want a “is she a trans man or a tomboyish lesbian?”! and, the thing with subtext is you can support both readings simultaneously! whereas if you were explicit about it you would have to settle on one or the other

@jdp23 i’m not on bad terms with family but i wish i could balance it more with people who belong to my community a little better

unfortunately due to my current living situation, all of those people are currently very remote

‹ mh (−) › would be if i could only feel numbness or euphoria

a lot of people on this website would tag this with ‹ mh (−) › but my mental health is fine actually, i just feel kind of bad is all

the holidays have been very social so it’s not for lack of interaction, but i’ve also spent nearly the entire time surrounded by straight people so that could be a factor