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@pamela i have done that last one! Well, not this weekend, but I do know where the nearest phone booth is

@Lady never to late to start, I mean

@Lady i mean its not like theres an age limit on fucking hot older women?

@ljwrites yeah it really sucks that that happened to you & especially that so many of your friends turned on you or walked away in response.

The way even systems (theoretically) designed to protect marginalized people from people in power inevitably get turned on people in power is really frustrating

@ljwrites yeah I’ve always been very dependent on the internet for my social life (bc disability, for a few years I was almost housebound & even now I dont have a lot of capacity of offline socialization) and I don’t want to find out what would happen if I ended up the target of a fullscale dogpile

I would like to think I have the resources to handle it, but.

@ljwrites yeah dominance and ignorance is definitely a good way of putting it!

My main issue with these kinds of outrage responses is that, in my experience, they largely only effect people who are already vulnerable. There are exceptions of course (some of the men during the Me Too movement) but I often feel like its people who are disabled/poc/etc who are dependent on social media get seriously hurt while J K Rowling can keep tweeting & spending her millions on TERFS

@platypus man thats a rough mistake. My sympathies to whoever made it!

@platypus 😬

I hope you got it back?

@welshpixie not sure this’ll be a good deal for the guy in the long run

@ljwrites Also, i can think of examples that were disproportionate in terms of level of response (mostly on tumblr bc thats where I was but i get the impression it happens on twitter at times as well). I remember a handful of times when people got up in arms over people to use the worst transsexual who were very clearly just like, allies/older queers using slightly outdated terminology (esp since often whatever they dug up would frequently have been a few years old already, so like from 2014 or so)

So its a shame he didn’t pick something like that if he wanted an example

@ljwrites yeah corporations love to blame individuals so that they don’t have to discuss wider issues! It’s annoyingly effective most of the time as well, esp since social media tends to have such a short (collective) attention span that people are already looking for reasons to move on to sometime else it feels like

@ljwrites ah I wasn’t familiar with all of the incidents that paragraph references, clearly I missed one of the important ones. My apologies!

@rabbithearth i don’t know if you’ve seen it, but popehat wrote a response to that nyt article that discusses a lot of the issues with people just going “cancel culture is bad” & makes some similar points

Mostly stuff I’ve seen individually before, but its handy to have them in one place: https://popehat.substack.com/p/our-fundamental-right-to-shame-and?s=r