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« Finally, as if this were not potentially alienating enough to female users, the Usenet guidelines also actively discourage appreciative and supportive postings in the name of reducing message volume:

In aggregate, small savings in disk or CPU add up to a great deal. For instance, messages offering thanks, jibes, or congratulations will only need to be seen by the interested parties—send these by mail rather than posting them. The same goes for simple questions, and especially for any form of 'me too' posting. (Horton and Spafford 1993) »

« Moreover, despite male concern with freedom from imposition, men are responsible for the majority of violations of negative politeness (my questionnaire notwithstanding) as well: It is men, not women, who post the longest messages, do the most cross-posting, copy the most text from previous messages (and respond, point by point), have the longest signature files, and generally take up the most bandwidth on the net. How can these behaviors be explained? »

« Flaming is generally considered hostile and rude. Yet the phenomenon is too widespread to be explained away as the crank behavior of a few sociopathic individuals. Indeed, many male-predominant groups, including stuffy academic ones, are adversarial in tone to a degree that, in my female-biased perception, borders on the uncivil. Could it be that men and women have different assessments of what is 'polite' and 'rude' in online communication?

In order to test this hypothesis, I prepared and disseminated an anonymous electronic questionnaire on netiquette. In addition to background questions about respondents' sex, age, ethnicity, professional status, and years of networking, the questionnaire included three open-ended questions asking respondents what online behaviors bother them most, what they most appreciate, and what changes they would like to see in Net interaction in an ideal world.

The questionnaire generated considerable interest: I received nearly 300 usable responses, 60% from men and 40% from women. Immediately I noticed a pattern relating to gender in the responses: Male respondents were more likely than female respondents to 'flame' me about the questionnaire itself. »

« Why focus on the extremes, rather than on the area of overlap where women and men exhibit similar kinds of variation? The existence of gendered styles must be explicitly demonstrated in order to put to rest the myth that gender is invisible on computer networks. This myth not only misrepresents the reality of gender on-line, but further perpetuates the uncritical tolerance of practices (such as flaming) which discourage women from using computer networks (Herring 1992, 1993a). Such practices affect large numbers of users even when only a minority of men are responsible, and thus it behooves those concerned with gender equality in cyberspace to understand them well. »

@djsundog also you're gonna be driving through Kibitown here pretty shortly (maybe already have by the time you see this??)

@djsundog too bad it's winter and covid; lotta good concerts at the Gorge in George

celebrate his conception, celebrate the revealing of his divine nature to the world, recognize his trials, remember his death, these all make sense to me

the day he popped out of his mother’s womb?? why?? he didn’t do anything important that day

i’m not a birthday person in general and i’m definitely not a birthday person for famous historical people who lived way before my time, e.g. Christ

too lesbian to function

@Satsuma i wonder if that is common and whether the LDS church like, even cares, since i don't think they have much of a Marian theology?

@Satsuma oookay so after doing more research Mormons believe God the Father has a wife, and some believe that the spirits of humans are their literal children, as a result of fucking, and that Jesus was God’s firstborn through this method

however the Heavenly Mother is not Mary, who, presumably, would also be a child of God

@Satsuma yeah the mormon encyclopedia cites both the bible and mormon prophets identifying Mary as a virgin (the latter are presumably less ambiguous)

i don’t think it’s really a theological focus though

« Jianzhu had once implemented a policy that any member of the staff, no matter how lowly, could talk to him personally about any household concern. Kyoshi saw the gesture of kindness devolve into some of the servants ratting each other out over minor grievances, hoping to curry favor. She knew now that had been his intent all along. »

one thing which is very interesting about all of these articles talking about computer geek culture is that none of them are calling it gay, despite it being frequently characterized as both a failed masculinity and a disavowal of heterosexual reproductive norms

you better not fucking misread Butler (1990) friend i’m warning you

when the article cites Butler (1990) and your critical reading levels go ⤴︎⤴︎⤴︎

right now it just displays a random quote but pretty soon it will also have a calendar…

how long before someone sets my personal website as their homepage

@Satsuma it’s not uncommon for people to think this; the bible mentions “brothers of jesus” and some people interpret this as biological brothers via Mary and Joseph (although Catholics do not)