i wanna be a ladycat, but also, fuck gender, it’s such bullshit. i do not have a coherent way of resolving the fact that i feel both of these things at the same time

@aescling sexually a ladycat, gender void ?

@Lady i don't get what you mean exactly?

@aescling i'm speaking lightly but what i mean is that there are ways of conceptualizing "being a ladycat" which do not depend on a particular gender identification or whatever

a hypothetical person could, for example, be a huge bear man furry genderwise but be a total ladycat in bed. and if THEY get to be a ladycat then surely someone without such strong gender attachments would also have access to the identity

beyond that there is the angle of not wanting to be in the closet, i.e. wanting one's SEXUAL identity as a ladycat lesbian to be recognized OUTSIDE the bedroom in addition to inside. one could maybe argue that this is a form of gender but it is at least a very different (gay) formulation of gender than is commonly implied by the term, and probably one you would be more amenable to (?)

i'm not meaning to assert that your relation to ladycatness IS a sexual one, i'm just using it as an example because that is how, for example, some kinds of lesbian identity are formed. you are a lesbian in the sheets and that MAKES you a lesbian in the streets; there is no presexual “lesbian gender” (this is a point open to debate)

@Lady i think i’m too demi to have a gender in relation to what i want in the sheets. like yeah i extremely want to fuck my spouses but idk i just wanna be a beautiful lady cat,,,,,

@Lady idk that silly anime trope where girls look at a woman and go “wow she’s beautiful…” is goals sometimes