@pagrus @compostablespork yeah i’ve pretty much just posted followers only since i moved instances (in 2021) which feels like a clear signal i’ve shifted from trying to meet new people / have conversations with people i don’t know to just trying to talk to people i already know at least a bit
i don’t think that says anything about the platform necessarily (besides that it has the tools to let me shift gears like that)—the more i make new acquaintances the more they have to be shallow ones bc i only have so much time in a day / emotional capacity
@Satsuma @pagrus @compostablespork you show up and you want to connect. stick around long enough and your connections are set, you don't really have room/energy for more
it's why it's harder to make friends in a small town, sometimes. because there aren't a lot of other new people to connect with, and the not-new people are busy with existing connections.
@twistylittlepassages @pagrus @compostablespork yeah i thought about referencing dunbars number, which is a bit of a reductive framing re:relationships but also something that does have some amount of truth to it
@Satsuma @pagrus @compostablespork for what it's worth, this arc Satsu just described is something I see playing out over and over in IRL communities as well