@Satsuma i think the implication is actually “having sex with somebody who is way better at sex than you”, with the secondary implication that when you get older, if you have a lot of sex, you eventually become better (or equally good) at sex as your partners

which like, that’s good, the sex is better when you’re more experienced, but it could have been better way sooner if you had gotten rid of the myth that at a certain age [gap] all lesbians metamorphize into abusers