despite being a manga in which so many characters so frequently are telling people that they've gotta take other people's feelings into consideration, i'm not sure i've ever seen characters that needed to stop thinking so much about other people's feelings as in yuri is my job
it's like. such a recurring pattern that it's hard to believe it's unintentional, but... like, the text never actually alludes directly to the fact that most of the problems are rooted in the characters' attempts to act based on what they think others are feeling or would feel. and often the characters seem to take away explicit realizations that are the opposite of accurate on this point... so like, also weirdly subtle about it if it is intentional
backstory spoilers for yuri is my job
you get Nene and Sumika talking through their history and how their past conflict was due to Nene's ideas about how Sumika felt and doing ill-advised things to try to get a reaction from her and bring those feelings to the surface, without ever actually telling her about her own feelings.
and then after all that, Nene says (for the second time in the conservation) that she needs to think about other people's feelings.
girl, your problem back then was not not considering her feelings. your problem was focusing more on her feelings than on communicating your own so she could decide how she wanted to react to that. this is not as bad as some of the other examples (since Nene's approach to Sumika's feelings her was indeed was at least more directly selfish), but it was the most recent time and also the repeating of the "i need to consider other people's feelings" after the convo was especially ridiculous lol
ultimately i think that this series is far too subtle from a like, pedagogical perspective about the importance of open communication and letting the people you care about make their own decisions, but it's quite fun
