i am giving up on trying to differentiate between people not getting it, having good intentions, and just not knowing how awful they're being, and intentional ableism and transphobia

so often, i have a bad feeling about someone, push past it because others that i respect seem to take them seriously, and then they spout off something deeply horribly ableist or straight up say that they think trans women are just men pretending or whatever

i'm not going to fall back on my "gut feelings" because i'm sure they're deeply biased in bad ways but i am going to stop giving people grace for saying bad shit