@Betty unfortunately the real question is “would your relatives actually do it while mourning your death” which does seem to be a bit of a sticking point
@Betty yeah too easy to talk yourself into going “okay but aunt so-and-so wasn’t really asking us to bury her flipping the bird with a sign that says ‘rest in piss tom’”
@Satsuma I guess, if nothing else, it does prove that people just will not honour your dying wishes.