i saw something on IG like, how you react when you're under pressure says a lot about you, that good people don't take their stress out on other people no matter how much at breaking point they are
i get it but also this is something i've struggled a lot with/felt guilty about. that if i snap at someone i'm a bad person. it's taken a while for me to forgive myself for my moments of anger and learn how to make up to others
i guess it's just, this sort of condemnation doesn't rly help
@yesterdaychild i think that people who want to continue getting away with bad behavior will frequently use these kinds of excuses, regardless of whether they’re true while people who generally do their best not to engage in bad behavior will occasionally slip up but then genuinely apologize and not deflect the blame and try to change things if they can so that it’s less likely to happen again
And there is a big difference between those! But the difference is not “never once snapped and said something hurtful bc they were too tired and stressed to deal and then something hit a sore point” because we are all humans who make mistakes
@Satsuma i appreciate this! i've also been trying to grasp that it's not necessarily a mistake - i am allowed to have feelings and emotions and limits too
more broadly i guess i am also looking at how to shift expectations of "be good" to just "be human"