when you give someone a gift, how much do you worry about whether it's "good enough" or whether they'll actually like or want it?

@twistylittlepassages on the one hand, there’s so much stuff in the world that i don’t really want to add to it by giving someone something they’ll never use or appreciate—like that’s not a gift, that’s just creating work for them since now they have to figure out what to do with this thing thats creating clutter in their living space

on the other hand, there’s a pleasure in giving someone a little luxury they wouldn’t necessarily justify buying for themselves—a really nice knit hat or an expensive brand of olive oil. Though those can in turn be fraught if you say, try to buy tea for someone whose normal tea budget is higher than your gift budget or whatever.

So it’s definitely a bit complicated! My family does a shared wishlist (literally just a shared page in the notes app) which imo has improved both the gift buying and gift receiving experience. And also it turns out we all just want nice socks 😆