@akjcv it's very “how do we dechristianize our family traditions” but i think it will be good

i like the gradual lighting of more candles as new years approaches; the traditional third pink candle lines up with the week of the solstice; and orienting the holidays around weekends will work well with our schedules

we both have things we like doing in winter but have zero attachment to the christian trappings surrounding it (or to christmas in particular)