@astraluma just speaking personally, i don't feel comfortable in a crowd of cishet women but it's not because of my genitals, it's because i'm a bulldyke and could not care less about makeup or jewelry or boys. that's not to say i don't still have feminine qualities or don't still like cute things—i do—but i relate to those things the way a dyke relates to them, not in the way of a prospective-or-actual straight man’s wife

female sisterhood is sisterhood across these differences, not sisterhood which erases them. don't waste your time with girls who expect you to be the same kind of girl that they are; on the other hand, shower those butches and dykes and lipstick lesbians and pillow princesses and riot grrrls and whatever else who know how to get along with love