I have a really hard time believing that anyone has any kind of negative intent. Like almost anyone who hurts me or someone else or anything, I can't believe they wanted to cause harm, I think they're doing it because there's something they don't understand, or they don't realize the magnitude of the outcomes of their actions, or something

It's gotten me in trouble before when I looked like I was defending some real fuckin shitters, like yes they've caused a lot of extremely real harm and I'm not trying to erase that or downplay it when I say I think I meant well, that intention I read from them doesn't change whether I think there should be consequences or anything or ever my opinion of them as a person

I've gotten better at knowing when to just shut the fuck up about it